The winning poems of the 2024 Farnham Poetry Competition – Adult

Winner

These Are The Women
by Nicole Coward

On the day of your Mother’s funeral,
These are the women,
Who showed up in the brutal blue half-light of early morning,
Buttering bread and piecing together sandwiches,
Boiling water for tea,
The movement of their hands,
Cupping your tattered heart,
As the weight of grief tore at your edges.

These are the women who across the seasons,
Bear witness to snail trails of tears
Sliding into nests of unkempt hair,
Their deft hands folding washing,
Arriving unprompted with a casserole, a plated roast, flowers, cigarettes, a slab of fruit cake,
These are the women who stand and wipe dishes, wring out dish cloths, The women who see what needs doing, and turn up, and do it.

These are the women who share joy,
As it threads it’s way like water,
Spilling into life’s crevices,
Shared meals, throaty laughter, baking with smears of jam,
The hilarity of toddlers, growing children,
The women who press twenty pence pieces into sweaty palms,
And send kids to the shops for sweets,
Pacing kitchens, holding each other’s babies,
Moments like light refracting on the dew of a spider’s web,
Knitting a lace of beauty across history.

These are the women who can read you,
By the angle of your head,
As you stand at the sink washing dishes,
The women who will know your thoughts, as your glance slides off their faces,
Who can smell the intimate details,
Of the battle beneath the sunlight falling on your skin.

These are the women who show up for your hard moments,
And hold it as a privilege to walk beside you,
The women who carry each other across the decades,
Through their own faults and broken imperfections.
These are the women
Who love each other always and anyway,
These are the women who love you just as yourself.

Second prize
She’s Never Seen The Mummy
by Liz Kendall

Regressing, we watch the films of our adolescence together again.
This time in the home you own with your husband,
in which you raise your children, in which you cope with adult life.
I have not done this.
But at our age we both know death,
and have looked in its face and met its gaze more than once.
When we laugh now it is fuller and freer for the sudden lift of weight:
your anxiety for your children; my blurred vision over my staggering, carrier bag career.
Something sharp is starting a rip, just there where I can’t see it,
or perhaps something tender is squashed already,
and beginning to leak in drips.
What is happening today at school? The teachers are so stupid
and the friends are not the ones you’d choose.

We watch films and talk about them
and in between we talk about everything else
and it is the same language, we need no subtitles.

You told me of meeting someone our age who had never seen The Mummy,
and you followed this shocking revelation with the words:
 “I’ve watched that film every six months since it was released”,
and I laughed, and reached for another handful of whatever
children’s party food we were scoffing at 10am on a Friday morning,
and thought “Yes. That is why I love you. That’s why you’re my friend.”
Because in all the exhausting tangle of ageing parents
and illness and schools and work, real work and motherhood,
high-level motherhood of homemade cakes and justice and consistent patience,
you’ve never neglected Brendan Fraser.
And we both understand that this matters.
This, too, is devotion;
is what makes you such an exceptional woman, mother, wife and friend.
Every little lamb is followed and found, brought back to the fold:
a parable of care.

Before the children, before you wed,
you took a week off work;
absented yourself from your proper, grown-up job;
because the box set of The West Wing’s final season had been released
and you were going to watch it as it deserved:
immersed, in solitude, at home.
You goddess. You inspire me.

We were eleven when this began, talking and watching,
those years of first blood;
learning to cope with it, knowing it would be back,
like Arnie, at inconvenient times with pain like metal fists.
Your fainting fits at the iron’s lowest ebb;
but that tide rose again, and with it your children.
You don’t faint now. Your diplomacy looks like a flag of peace
and you wrap it so gracefully, concealing the sheath
of the sword you hold at your core.

Comfortably we regress; the green velvet cushions familiar,
old actors rewound to their prime, our delight still fresh.
The geeky thrills that sustain us in emergency
for emergency will come: has been and gone
and lurks now, waiting for its overture
on which neither of us has pressed play.
But it is not this day. May it not be today.

We know, we have bled and bled again and we know that these hours,
these sweet hard-soft popcorn moments, are how you keep
sunny and smiling; blond hair and blue jeans and a silver star
sparkling wide on your jumper as though you’d never lost anyone.
We both know that with only real life to live in we would each of us sink.
Give us films we’ve seen before, together,
and books we’ve read before and shared before, together,
before all this life and death came.

Third prize
Farewell
by Kay Wadham

The seat where she used to sit on the lonely cliff
Stands empty now.
She would muse on the rolling waves
And a broken vow.
Still the waves roll in as they did before
But she is gone.

Now he stands alone on the windswept shore
As the seabirds cry.
And the desolate sob that
escapes his throat
Is a last goodbye.

The winning poems of the 2024 Farnham Poetry Competition – Under-16s

Winner

Digital Friendships 
by Jet Pariera-Jenks

I have thousands of friends and likers
And all of them follow me
As if I am the coolest girl in class
Instead of little nobody.
I have thousands of subscribers and followers
As if I am the latest trend
Even though I’ve never met half of them
I’m proud to have so many friends.
Or should I call them strangers?
They could be anyone
I don’t know all their names
Or even where they’re from.
My friends could be any age
Are they older than I guessed?
I think I should be more cautious
When I’m sent a friend request.
We exchange ‘laters’ and ‘lols’ through texter
Our messages are emojis and GIFs
I have thousands of friends and strangers
In my digital friendships.

To see Jet perform her poem, click below.

Second prize
Fractured Bonds
by Salimata Gassama

I stand on the threshold of adulthood, A time of transition, a turbulent flood. Friends once close now drift away, Leaving me with memories, stark and gray. 

Adrift in a sea of changing tides, I cling to what once was, where my heart resides.

The laughter, the tears, the shared dreams we spun, Now shattered like glass in the setting sun. 

An allusion to youth, a fleeting sigh, As ambition drives us to reach for the sky. But in this journey of growing apart, Anxiety grips as it clutches my heart.

Yet courage whispers amidst the fear, Friendship’s essence ever clear. For in abandonment’s cruel sting, True bonds emerge with resilient wings.

 Freedom found in letting go, Embracing what comes, letting new friendships grow. So here I stand, on life’s grand stage, Understanding now, through wisdom’s gage.

Third prize
Peapods
by Emily Tarrant

‘Like two peas in a pod’ – what they say to inseparable friends, and young lovers.
But some pea pods, the peas are detached, and the friendship is broken.
Some peas, they quibble and quarrel in their pods.
Some peas, are happy and chuckle and grin.
Some peas, leave the pod before you take it in.
Some peas, go nasty, foul and rotten.
Some peas, yet difficult, are best left forgotten.
Such is the life of friendship and love,
Such is the life, of peas and pods.

Hope amid the Chaos

For LGBTQIA+ people and their allies

Hope Amidst the Chaos, a Holy Communion service with music based on Les Misérables, for LGBTQIA+ people and their allies, will take place at St Mary’s, Quarry Street, Guildford, on Wednesday, March 20th, 7.30pm.

Come along and sing some really cracking tunes and share in a communion service on a theme of hope amidst the chaos. Contact Stella for more details.

We’re looking for a new rector

The hunt is still on for a new rector of the Parish of Badshot Lea and Hale.

We haven’t had any suitable applicants yet so we are still advertising and an advertisement is currently in The Church Times. If you know someone who might be interested please point them in our direction.

The advert states:

Badshot Lea and Hale is an inclusive parish in north Farnham with three churches and congregations who enjoy their differences and celebrate their unity.  We are looking for a rector who is kind, easy-going, approachable and fun and who will encourage us on our continuing journey with God.

We want to be a parish that:

  • has a deeper connection with God, our community and one another
  • welcomes all ages and local schools into our churches
  • develops our existing culture of vocation
  • uses our buildings for the benefit of the whole parish

We are praying for a Rector who is:

  • a collaborative leader, capable of delegation
  • able to help us grow younger and increase congregation numbers
  • sensitive to different styles of worship
  • dedicated to inclusion

We offer:

  • welcoming congregations
  • administrative support and a spacious house
  • a thriving town with a lively arts scene

To find out more, click on the parish profile here: 

Clothes and equipment needed for refugees

There will be a collection for refugees run by Farnham Help for Refugees, at William Cobbett Primary School, Weybourne Road, Farnham, GU9 9ER, on Friday, March 22nd, 4.30-7pm.

The following items are needed:

CLOTHING
(Good condition only)

  • SUMMER CLOTHES
    For men – sizes S, M, L only
    For women, teens, children – all sizes
  • BRAND NEW UNDERWEAR & SOCKS
  • WALKING SHOES & TRAINERS
  • ADULT FOOTBALL KIT
    (no formal clothes)

SPECIFIC CLOTHING

  • Men’s clothing is specifically needed
  • Mid- & long-length women’s cardigans [all sizes]
  • Women’s jumpers, size 20
  • Babygros, size 12-18m, 18-24m
  • Trainers for men, women, children [good
    condition please]

TOYS & GAMES

  • ‘That’s not my…’ books
  • Shape sorters
  • Stacking rings
  • Mega blocks / stickle bricks / duplo
  • Lego
  • Orchard toy games
  • Connect 4
  • Guess Who
  • Chess, Backgammon

    OTHER
  • Suitcases
  • Large holdalls & rucksacks
  • Sleeping bags
  • Small tents [1-4 man]

Please do not bring items outside this list and please do not bring dirty or damaged items.

PLEASE SORT ALL CLOTHES INTO SEPARATE, LABELLED BAGS, FOR:
Men; Women; Children; Shoes; Football kit.

Thank you!

If you can spare an hour or two to help on the day between 4.30 and 10pm, or want further information, contact farnhamhelpforrefugees@gmail.com or find them on Facebook : farnhamhelpforrefugees

Easter Craft Market

We’ll be holding our Easter Craft Market on Saturday, March 16th, at St Mark’s Church, Alma Lane, from 10am-2pm.

There will be loads of lovely stalls – from candles to clocks, jumpers to jewels, cards to crafty bits – along with refreshments, live music and an Easter Egg hunt!

If you are a crafter who wants to sell your work, please get in touch as we have a few spaces left. Tables are just £12.50 each. You can find out more here or email craft@badshotleaandhale.org or call us on 07842761919.

Serving the Villages North of Farnham: Badshot Lea, Hale, Heath End & Weybourne