All posts by Lesley Crawley

I am a fully trained counsellor and psychotherapist and currently teach on a counselling degree course. I have an MSc in Therapeutic Counselling from the University of Greenwich. I am also a priest in the Church of England. Although faith and spirituality inform my practice, my training is based on secular models. I am not a Christian Counsellor, but rather a counsellor who is a Christian. I enjoy working with people from all faiths and none. I value working with people who desire to grow, find purpose, and find freedom from unresolved issues. I have expertise in working with trauma, particularly adult survivors of childhood sexual abuse. I work with adults and currently, my practice is online.

Small Groups Survey Results

Dear All

18 people so far have replied to the anonymous Home Group Survey I sent out, nine who are in groups and nine who are not. Thank you so much,

Things you like about groups:

  • Getting to know people, learning together and deepening relationships
  • I enjoy being with people and looking at the bible .
  • I value the fellowship
  • Sharing things that have been good in the week and maybe not so.
  • Sharing Passages from the Bible which leads to conversation and questions”
  • Sharing thoughts and knowledge

Thank you for the issues that you raised through the survey. Here are some thoughts:

I don’t like groups

I do you get you. Generally, I find groups a bit intimidating. However, we learn so much from being with others in a group. Jesus formed a group with his disciples and I imagine that was uncomfortable for some of the members. I wonder whether you would consider whether small groups might be good for you [and your presence might be good for others].

Matthew tells us Jesus said “For where two or three gather together in my name, I am there among them”. This seems to be a direct encouragement to small groups. St Paul says “Accept one another.” [Romans 15:7], and “Bear with each other.” [Colossians 3:13].

We are required to try to love our neighbours as ourselves. A man called Michael Harper wrote “Community is never easy. It means to allow yourself to be known as you really are …”

No group is available that I am interested in

Would you be willing to start one yourself or request someone else to start one?

It’s hard to make a regular commitment

It depends to a certain extent on what the group is doing as to how important that is, but no group is going to expect you to attend every meeting or even every other meeting.

I want a discussion group

‘Questioning Faith’ might possibly suit you – Wednesdays in January starting on 3rd Jan at 7:30pm at the Rectory.

I want current affairs and how they link with beliefs

The commentary and questions in the book ‘100 Stand-Alone Bible Studies’ [used by some groups] sometimes examine the link between specific themes in particular Gospels and current issues. If you joined a group, your interests would influence the approach.

Zoom is best for me

Bible Book Club is on Zoom.

I like sharing ideas and thoughts with the group. Nothing else.

That sharing is important in itself.

I would like more prayer but that seems not so easy

I think you should raise that with the group and see how others feel.

It would be nice to have a few more people

Yes. Some people see it as a sign of the health of the church.

If you would like to know more, please speak to a member of clergy or Richard Myers – rjhmyers@yahoo.co.uk

I pray that God will bless you and please pray for our small groups.

Blessings

Lesley

Generosity Week

Each year in the autumn we hold a generosity week, and this year it will take place from Sunday, September 10th to Sunday, September 17th. There are so many aspects to generosity, and Stella has written a really interesting article on generosity, that I recommend here. Most people think about giving money, or perhaps time or talents, and these are all important, but generosity is also expressed in how we treat other people – the way we speak to and about them, the way we forgive, make allowances for and give other the benefit of the doubt. It is in the way we use social media, the way we listen to others we don’t necessarily understand, the way we look for what unites us rather than what divides us. When we are generous in our hearts, it spills over into our lives. Generosity also extends to how we treat our planet so that we are more willing to take care of the resources and share with others, including the generations yet to come.

There are so many ways that we are generous as a church in our actions and support for many in our community in many ways:

  • Foodbank collections
  • Hygiene Bank collections and storage
  • Farnham Help for Refugees collections
  • Part of Farnham Connects (the group that coordinated work through the pandemic)
  • Helping schools including mentoring at Farnham Heath End School
  • Services and visiting at local care homes
  • Little Bees toddler group
  • Friday Night Games club for all ages
  • Open the book – presenting Bible stories in our nurseries and schools
  • Weddings, funerals, baptisms
  • Connections at St George’s for the over 50s
  • Support for the Sandy Hill Inclusive Partnership
  • Arts events
  • Questioning faith and study groups
  • Social events
  • Welcoming other groups into our churches so that they can hold their own events
  • A port of call for those who are bereaved or troubled in any way

I’m sure you can think of many other things that we do as churches that support our community. We do have much to give thanks for and many things planned as we continue to serve our community.

I am told we have 59 people who give either through the PGS system or through giving to the bank, I don’t know whether you are one of our planned givers, but if not, I wonder whether you might like to be. If so – please contact Jacquie, our Stewardship Officer – stewardship.officer@badshotleaandhale.org and she will help you. Also, please would you take a moment to prayerfully review your giving for the next year. I know we are all in different financial situations, some much better off than others, but if you would be able to increase your giving that would help us with our financial security going forwards. At the moment, the average donation is £89 per month. I am very grateful for the increases in giving we have seen over the years. This year is the first year in over a decade that we have seen the level of giving reduce, which is very understandable given the economic downturn. This unfortunately coincides with a rise in inflation, and our outgoings increasing.

To make ends meet, each church needs to raise about £50,000 per year (and we have three) and the main way that we finance that is through giving, the projected income streams this year are:

Total Giving£67,500
Fundraising£9,000
Trading (hall rentals, magazine income)£46,200
Gift Aid recovered£2,500
PCC Fees (funerals, weddings)£7,500
Other Income (including rental of curate’s house)£19,000
Grants£525
Legacies£0
Total£149,000

If you would like more detailed information on the budget, then please ask me. The good news is, for the first time, our budget balances and we are paying all our bills on time. We have received a letter from the archdeacon commending us on our sterling effort. It is very tight, but the PCC have managed this process of being able to balance the books. This is mostly due to increased trading, and that has been a blessing both to us and our community – see the article here and also due to incredibly generous giving. Please continue to pray, and help us if you can, our finances are so very fragile.

I have also put together some ‘Situations Vacant’ – there are many roles that you may be able to help us with! To see that click here.

Thanks again for all you do,

Blessings

Lesley

Light a candle for Her Majesty the Queen

All three churches in the Parish are open today (9th September) for prayer and lighting candles:

St Mark’s, Upper Hale (near Tesco’s Express) 11:00-12:00

St George’s, Badshot Lea 9:00-4:00

St John’s, Hale, 9:00-4:00

For the rest of the week St George’s and St John’s will be open for prayer.

Below are some prayers for the Queen.

Gracious God, we give thanks
for the life of your servant Queen Elizabeth,
for her faith and her dedication to duty.
Bless our nation as we mourn her death
and may her example continue to inspire us;
through Jesus Christ our Lord. Amen.

God of love,
We thank you for the life of The Queen,
for her service to our nation,
and for her faith in you.
Be close to all of us who mourn,
that we may we find comfort and hope in your love,
through Jesus Christ our Lord.
Amen.

Everlasting God, we pray for our new King.
Bless his reign and the life of our nation.
Help us to work together
so that truth and justice, harmony and fairness
flourish among us;
through Jesus Christ our Lord.
Amen.

(for use with young children)
Loving God,
our Queen has died and people are sad.
Thank you for her long life
and her care for her people.
We pray for our new King.
Bless and guide him as his reign begins.
Amen.