When we pray for people who are ill or bereaved it can be tempting to pray that God will be with them.  However, as Joan Chittister points out:

The Hasidim tell the story of the preacher who preached over and over, “Put God into your life; put God into your life.” But the holy rabbi of the village said, “Our task is not to put God into our lives. God is already there. Our task is simply to realize that.”

Instead I pray that people may know the presence of God in their lives.