Emotional Intelligence (EQ) is a concept that was made popular by a man called Daniel Goleman, who wrote a book with that title. Decades of research have shown that it is the key requirement for success in every sphere of life. I recently read an article that analysed data from a million people show that these eighteen habits or qualities are prevalent in people with a high EQ:

1. You have a robust emotional vocabulary
2. You’re curious about people
3. You embrace change
4. You know your strengths and weaknesses
5. You’re a good judge of character
6. You are difficult to offend
7. You know how to say no (to yourself and others)
8. You let go of mistakes
9. You give and expect nothing in return
10. You don’t hold grudges
11. You neutralize toxic people
12. You don’t seek perfection
13. You appreciate what you have
14. You disconnect from technology sometimes
15. You limit your caffeine intake
16. You get enough sleep
17. You stop negative self-talk in its tracks
18. You won’t let anyone limit your joy

Reading this list made me wonder what an Emotionally Intelligent Church might look like. It would be a place where mistakes are allowed, offence is not taken, forgiveness is offered and thankfulness is central. There wouldn’t be grumbling or complaining, and change would be seen as a good thing. Toxic people would not be allowed to dominate, but instead they would be encouraged to understand their feelings. Self-control would be exercised, and people wouldn’t be overwhelmed by the jobs because they could say ‘no’. The church would serve the community joyfully and expect nothing in return.

Does this sound good? It does to me, although I think the only refreshments that would be served would be Chamomile or Peppermint tea!