Suicide, the buffer generation and the need to talk

The biggest killer of men under 45 isn’t heart disease or cancer or accidents on the road, it is suicide. It affects far more men than women and the whole thing is both excruciatingly painful and taboo.

I watched a fascinating documentary entitled Professor Green: Suicide and Me and what came through is perhaps what we might suspect – men struggle to talk about their emotions and feel that is isn’t allowed in society – it isn’t ‘manly’, and consequently, all the emotion is bottled up until they can’t cope any more.

But what I didn’t know is that 20 years ago, suicide was more prevalent in young men, now it is middle-aged men that are more at risk. In other words, it is the same generation of men, born in the 1950s and 60s – who have been dubbed ‘The Buffer Generation’. In an article in the Telegraph, the dilemma is presented like this by a Professor O’Connor who does research into this area:

“Middle aged men are caught between two generations – when you look at their own models, their fathers, it was about not talking about their emotions,” he said.

“But when you look at their sons, they are much more at ease with talking about their emotions and seeking help.

“Society has moved on but middle aged men are not as equipped as they should be with dealing with changes in their role in society.”

“It is a good thing of course that there is more equality now but arguably in this age group men are not equipped to deal with the change in their social roles.”

Whatever the problems are, it appears that the answer is to talk about these things, to stop the taboo, both to help those who are suicidal and to comfort those who have lost someone in this tragic way.

Easter at St George’s

Easter Crafts – St. George’s – Good Friday – 25th March
If you are aged between 4ish and 11ish, why not come along on Good Friday morning for a chance to have some fun, make some stuff and learn a bit about Easter and some of the traditions? We will start at 10.00 and finish around 12. Please bring a grown up with you.
Please contact Maxine if you would like to come as numbers are restricted.

Easter Sunday Easter Egg Hunt – 27th March
As usual, during the 10.00 service at St. George’s there will be an Easter Egg Hunt and other activities for the children. They will be in Church for the beginning of the service and return to join the grown ups for the Eucharist.